Monday, November 23, 2009
SECRETS AND STEPS TO SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
Hello there my pleasant readers, I know you are wondering why I have chosen this issue to deliberate on this day.
A friend invited me to read an article he had written which I find really fascinating and intriguing, beside, some aspect of the article were mind bugging and it also aroused
Some questionable content.
To this regard, I have chosen to reply him from my own point of rational believe and also to
Enlighten some of us that are searching for answers to the very problem we face in our every day relationships, affairs, love, date, and more of such. Relationship or whatever word you use to define it, it's very a broad issue that covers the very breath of our lives, in our daily activities, place work, clubs where we have to refresh and catch up with events with old buddies. Relationship is also in categories and they are either casual or serious, it just depends on how you place them.
He exclaimed good ridings to bad nonsense, relationship sucks, and it is for suckers and feeble minded people.
The scene sparked some announce in us when our friend unfolded to us what has just transpired between him and the girl of his dreams, I am sorry, can't continue with these affair, you are not meant for me, you are just too perfect and I can't match up with you was the hurting word from the lady my friend had all hopes of settling down with.
All my friend could ask was, why? Why? Why? What have I done wrong, the devastating blow really got him unaware and all my friend could do was to break down and cry likes a little baby.
It hurts really, it does hurt badly. This story is among many we experience most times in our lives
I have also been in relationships (plural), and from my experiences, this are just some observation and facts I have learnt from it.
1. OBSERVATION AND CONSIDERATION---- like I mentioned above, relationship is a form of unconscious business that we get into because of the natural affection, admiration, infatuation love and more of such.
often times we allow our unconscious impulse guide to doing things we really don't have much information guiding us, the gradual feeling, intoxicating our thoughts and reasoning beclouds our conscious awareness that at a point we ought to really review and put the inappropriate things of our relationship into the right perspective if we want that relationship to work just we run business.
There are numerous of things that might seem wrong or is actually wrong with the affair, it can only work when the persons involved work out things that might pose as a problem to the relationship.
But you have do this considering that it takes two to tangle, so you should try as much as possible to consider your partner involved, carry him/ her along in a manner of intelligence.
Failing to do this might hurt you at the very point you don't expect.
2. EXPERIENCES------ there is saying in a school of thought, "experience is the best teacher".
In my conclusion and believes, I quite agree with sayings', another school of thought says, "once beating, twice shy" I wouldn't say have gathered all the knowledge needed to get involve in a relationship but I can tell you that experience sometimes really helps and improve a person getting into another relationship to be prepared and also take precaution against past occurrence in order for it not to re-occur.
Also, experiences enables you learn from other peoples mistake to guide you along the relationship, it makes you want to do the right things , take the right decision and also makes you grow into man of maturity capable of handling situation that above young lovers can't.
In addition to this and sincerely speaking, there are quite enormous precautions you can take while you are in a relationship, a lot we see on TV's, more of it that we read on the internet and still more.
Note of warning, relationship is generally for everybody, but it depends on how your relationship, your comprehension and rational must come into play at any point your are into relationship, whether casual or serious, it must be part of your daily guide to making and getting result to good and righteous relationship.
3. LEARN TO LET GO------- If it is not working out in your relationship, after you might have tried every thing humanly possible to get your relationship back on track, I will suggest you learn to let go.
If you really love someone so deeply and your partner is not responding to your effort, I best advice you let go and let time work it out for you.
Time they say heals wound, hurts and pain.
Another thing is , you just have to know who you really want in your life, assuming you are involved with couple guys/ girls, this is a state of confusion in relationship, but you only have to make the right choice here, how?????????, well if someone you have spent time with, feels the same way you do over many months or years and you have taken the time ask the person if he/she wants to stay with you till death do you part, you shouldn't be wasting more of your time for time to be right.
Ask your relating partner if you guys want to be with each other for good and get your answer right away, so as to know where it is you stand in your relationship.
4. PUT YOUR LOVE TO TEST--------There numerous of movies and novels I have read, I can tell you that some of them ended on good note while others ended bad, some were conflicting and confusing and others were just not prepared, you really want to know your partner, you have to put him to the test, you have to understand the man/ woman you are involved with, if he/she is or not materialistic, loose, inconsistent, Temperament, pretence, overbearing, unthankful, lover of themselves, dependent or independent caring etc. You just have to know who your partner is.
This test doesn't necessarily apply to young lovers alone but it also applies to the married and the intending also.
You must know what you are looking for in a man or woman, we are not perfect and we also live in an imperfect world but it doesn't stop you from putting your love to rest sometimes.
If your partner fails, falls or falters to your test, give him/her another chance to make it up to you.
While you are doing this, kindly have at the back of your heart that we are humans and we are likely to make mistakes and some times costly mistake, but you have forgive him/her when you know that and give the benefits doubts.
5. REFLECTION------ often times we are so consumed in something so engaging that our consciousness is total absent of other vital things in and around us that we don't pay attention to
And when the sudden or the unexpected happens, we are caught unawares.
It is matter of concern that every thing that happens around us be given such detailed concern, this will involves our sub-consciousness in play
And our five (5) senses are taking all information into the very storage of our mind which will aid and also help us in recovery of things we need to reflect on
Our relationship doesn’t need a deep engagement before we take in account all the very happening around, with this it keeps us on track with what needs attention and also retrace our footsteps just incase you are treading on part wrong steps,
It could be you or your partner, but very vital is that once your relationship is dear to you, you must do every thing necessary to keep you relationship, affair, marriage.
Two of you must make this a success. It also doesn't hurt if you document the daily boring and action moment of your relationship if you are the type has a very low or weak retentive memory.
6. IF YOU PARTNER ISN'T RESPONDING, LET GO------
There are situation that some times arises that you really don't have answer to, more you don't know what to do after trying everything possible. To some who have tread on this path and some experience ones, will tell you that this is the final stop
what can you do, you ask yourself that question after trying everything humanly possible to make it work but your partner is generally not showing any interest to respond, well friend, this is a point where the truth is bitter pill to swallow but you
You have to swallow it nonetheless; it’s the truth that you have to face and make up your mind to face it. Often, some will ask you, if it is worth dying for, those questions sometimes don't help situation but it throws more emphasis to very point of your dilemma. There are some situations in relationship were both parties need a break which often does lead to ending the relationship. This cause maybe as a result of immaturity between this lovers and they need to move on because they see each other as nothing
Or they don't have anything to offer to each other. Some just turn or become boring to their partner because of the new experience from a new partner. While some are just adventurous in nature and they take relationship in same vein.
It is point to note here that a busy person hardly have time to relate or have time for relationship. Finally
I will to tell you that it is important to understand what you are getting yourself into. Don’t be swept off your feet by appearance or glitters is gold, but also take the time examine what you are getting yourself into, and if you are already into it, kindly follow this guide to the latter
And also be informed by reading and learn from others in order not to fall into same pit others have fallen.
Kindly post your comments and observation and question to my blog forum
<<<<<<,(((((((---------------)))))))))>>>>>>>>.
Jorsh's columns. Secrets to fruitful relationship
My best songs that relate to these issues are R.KELLY. JODECI AND MORE
A friend invited me to read an article he had written which I find really fascinating and intriguing, beside, some aspect of the article were mind bugging and it also aroused
Some questionable content.
To this regard, I have chosen to reply him from my own point of rational believe and also to
Enlighten some of us that are searching for answers to the very problem we face in our every day relationships, affairs, love, date, and more of such. Relationship or whatever word you use to define it, it's very a broad issue that covers the very breath of our lives, in our daily activities, place work, clubs where we have to refresh and catch up with events with old buddies. Relationship is also in categories and they are either casual or serious, it just depends on how you place them.
He exclaimed good ridings to bad nonsense, relationship sucks, and it is for suckers and feeble minded people.
The scene sparked some announce in us when our friend unfolded to us what has just transpired between him and the girl of his dreams, I am sorry, can't continue with these affair, you are not meant for me, you are just too perfect and I can't match up with you was the hurting word from the lady my friend had all hopes of settling down with.
All my friend could ask was, why? Why? Why? What have I done wrong, the devastating blow really got him unaware and all my friend could do was to break down and cry likes a little baby.
It hurts really, it does hurt badly. This story is among many we experience most times in our lives
I have also been in relationships (plural), and from my experiences, this are just some observation and facts I have learnt from it.
1. OBSERVATION AND CONSIDERATION---- like I mentioned above, relationship is a form of unconscious business that we get into because of the natural affection, admiration, infatuation love and more of such.
often times we allow our unconscious impulse guide to doing things we really don't have much information guiding us, the gradual feeling, intoxicating our thoughts and reasoning beclouds our conscious awareness that at a point we ought to really review and put the inappropriate things of our relationship into the right perspective if we want that relationship to work just we run business.
There are numerous of things that might seem wrong or is actually wrong with the affair, it can only work when the persons involved work out things that might pose as a problem to the relationship.
But you have do this considering that it takes two to tangle, so you should try as much as possible to consider your partner involved, carry him/ her along in a manner of intelligence.
Failing to do this might hurt you at the very point you don't expect.
2. EXPERIENCES------ there is saying in a school of thought, "experience is the best teacher".
In my conclusion and believes, I quite agree with sayings', another school of thought says, "once beating, twice shy" I wouldn't say have gathered all the knowledge needed to get involve in a relationship but I can tell you that experience sometimes really helps and improve a person getting into another relationship to be prepared and also take precaution against past occurrence in order for it not to re-occur.
Also, experiences enables you learn from other peoples mistake to guide you along the relationship, it makes you want to do the right things , take the right decision and also makes you grow into man of maturity capable of handling situation that above young lovers can't.
In addition to this and sincerely speaking, there are quite enormous precautions you can take while you are in a relationship, a lot we see on TV's, more of it that we read on the internet and still more.
Note of warning, relationship is generally for everybody, but it depends on how your relationship, your comprehension and rational must come into play at any point your are into relationship, whether casual or serious, it must be part of your daily guide to making and getting result to good and righteous relationship.
3. LEARN TO LET GO------- If it is not working out in your relationship, after you might have tried every thing humanly possible to get your relationship back on track, I will suggest you learn to let go.
If you really love someone so deeply and your partner is not responding to your effort, I best advice you let go and let time work it out for you.
Time they say heals wound, hurts and pain.
Another thing is , you just have to know who you really want in your life, assuming you are involved with couple guys/ girls, this is a state of confusion in relationship, but you only have to make the right choice here, how?????????, well if someone you have spent time with, feels the same way you do over many months or years and you have taken the time ask the person if he/she wants to stay with you till death do you part, you shouldn't be wasting more of your time for time to be right.
Ask your relating partner if you guys want to be with each other for good and get your answer right away, so as to know where it is you stand in your relationship.
4. PUT YOUR LOVE TO TEST--------There numerous of movies and novels I have read, I can tell you that some of them ended on good note while others ended bad, some were conflicting and confusing and others were just not prepared, you really want to know your partner, you have to put him to the test, you have to understand the man/ woman you are involved with, if he/she is or not materialistic, loose, inconsistent, Temperament, pretence, overbearing, unthankful, lover of themselves, dependent or independent caring etc. You just have to know who your partner is.
This test doesn't necessarily apply to young lovers alone but it also applies to the married and the intending also.
You must know what you are looking for in a man or woman, we are not perfect and we also live in an imperfect world but it doesn't stop you from putting your love to rest sometimes.
If your partner fails, falls or falters to your test, give him/her another chance to make it up to you.
While you are doing this, kindly have at the back of your heart that we are humans and we are likely to make mistakes and some times costly mistake, but you have forgive him/her when you know that and give the benefits doubts.
5. REFLECTION------ often times we are so consumed in something so engaging that our consciousness is total absent of other vital things in and around us that we don't pay attention to
And when the sudden or the unexpected happens, we are caught unawares.
It is matter of concern that every thing that happens around us be given such detailed concern, this will involves our sub-consciousness in play
And our five (5) senses are taking all information into the very storage of our mind which will aid and also help us in recovery of things we need to reflect on
Our relationship doesn’t need a deep engagement before we take in account all the very happening around, with this it keeps us on track with what needs attention and also retrace our footsteps just incase you are treading on part wrong steps,
It could be you or your partner, but very vital is that once your relationship is dear to you, you must do every thing necessary to keep you relationship, affair, marriage.
Two of you must make this a success. It also doesn't hurt if you document the daily boring and action moment of your relationship if you are the type has a very low or weak retentive memory.
6. IF YOU PARTNER ISN'T RESPONDING, LET GO------
There are situation that some times arises that you really don't have answer to, more you don't know what to do after trying everything possible. To some who have tread on this path and some experience ones, will tell you that this is the final stop
what can you do, you ask yourself that question after trying everything humanly possible to make it work but your partner is generally not showing any interest to respond, well friend, this is a point where the truth is bitter pill to swallow but you
You have to swallow it nonetheless; it’s the truth that you have to face and make up your mind to face it. Often, some will ask you, if it is worth dying for, those questions sometimes don't help situation but it throws more emphasis to very point of your dilemma. There are some situations in relationship were both parties need a break which often does lead to ending the relationship. This cause maybe as a result of immaturity between this lovers and they need to move on because they see each other as nothing
Or they don't have anything to offer to each other. Some just turn or become boring to their partner because of the new experience from a new partner. While some are just adventurous in nature and they take relationship in same vein.
It is point to note here that a busy person hardly have time to relate or have time for relationship. Finally
I will to tell you that it is important to understand what you are getting yourself into. Don’t be swept off your feet by appearance or glitters is gold, but also take the time examine what you are getting yourself into, and if you are already into it, kindly follow this guide to the latter
And also be informed by reading and learn from others in order not to fall into same pit others have fallen.
Kindly post your comments and observation and question to my blog forum
<<<<<<,(((((((---------------)))))))))>>>>>>>>.
Jorsh's columns. Secrets to fruitful relationship
My best songs that relate to these issues are R.KELLY. JODECI AND MORE
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